Starting daycare is a major step for both parents and children. It’s a mix of emotions—excitement, nervousness, and maybe even a few tears (from both sides!). But with some planning and preparation, you can ease this transition and set the stage for a positive start.

Here’s how to make that first week smoother for your little one—and for yourself.

1. Talk About It Early and Often

Children find comfort in knowing what to expect. Start talking about daycare a few days (or even weeks) in advance.

• Use simple, upbeat language: “You’ll meet new friends, play games, and have story time.”

• Read books about starting daycare or preschool together.

• Act out daycare routines through pretend play to build familiarity.

This helps your child feel more in control and reduces anxiety around the unknown.

2. Visit the Daycare Beforehand (If Possible)

A short visit before the official start can make a big difference.

• Let your child explore the space, see the toys, and meet the caregivers.

• If allowed, stay for a short play session.

• Take photos to look at together later and reinforce positive feelings.

Even a quick peek can turn a strange place into something familiar.

3. Create a Smooth Morning Routine

Daycare mornings can feel rushed, so practicing your new routine ahead of time can help everyone feel calmer.

• Start waking up and getting dressed at the new time a few days before.

• Pack the bag together so your child feels involved.

• Keep breakfast simple and predictable.

A consistent routine helps create a sense of stability and security.

4. Pack Some Comfort from Home

A well-packed daycare bag can help your child feel safe and supported. Include:

• A change of clothes

• A favorite blanket or soft toy

• A labeled water bottle or snack if allowed

• A small family photo or familiar item

These little comforts can help ease separation anxiety, especially in the early days.

5. Keep Goodbyes Short and Sweet

The hardest part for many families is the moment of separation. The key? A consistent, loving goodbye routine.

• Try a special phrase, hug, or kiss pattern: “One hug, one high-five, and I’ll see you soon!”

• Avoid sneaking away—it can create mistrust.

• Stay calm and cheerful, even if your child cries. Children often settle quickly once you're gone.

The more predictable your goodbye, the easier it becomes over time.

6. Expect Ups and Downs

Some children adjust quickly, while others take more time—and both are completely normal.

• There may be tears in the beginning, or even a delayed reaction after a few days.

• Try to stay patient and supportive. Let your child express their feelings, and reassure them that daycare is a safe place.

• Don’t be discouraged if progress isn’t linear. Growth takes time.

Celebrate the small wins—like staying a bit longer without fuss, or smiling at pick-up.

7. Stay Connected During the Day

It can be tough not knowing what your child is doing all day, especially in the beginning. While you don’t want to overwhelm yourself by checking in constantly, here are a few tips:

• Ask the caregivers for updates or feedback at the end of the day.

• Look for signs of how your child is doing through behavior at home.

• Ask open-ended questions like, “What was your favorite thing today?”

Even if your child is too young to answer, hearing your interest helps them process the experience.

8. Take Care of Yourself, Too

The first week of daycare is a big shift for you, too. It’s okay to feel a mix of relief, sadness, pride, or guilt. These emotions are all valid.

• Talk with a partner, friend, or another parent who’s been through it.

• Give yourself space to adjust.

• Remember that giving your child new experiences and a safe space to grow is a gift—even if it’s hard at first.

The first week of daycare can feel like a rollercoaster. But with preparation, patience, and lots of love, it becomes a foundation for your child’s confidence, independence, and learning.

Your support, consistency, and encouragement will help your little one take this big step—and you might just surprise yourself with how strong you are too.